This year, I knew that stepping into planning with a particular structure was not going to serve me. So instead, I need to sit and I need to be available. I need to dream. And I need to step out of the structure. There's an important language shift happening here. Come along for the ride!
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You're on this earth for a purpose. You want to live a life that matters. So let's get through the fear and the overwhelm and all the crap that gets in the way of you living the life we're here for. This is the becoming ourselves podcast where we are fired up about you getting clear on who you are, what you're called to, and how to get there. Because the world is waiting for you to show up and own your power. I'm your host, Juli Wenger, a coach, a speaker, a Jesus lover in Enneagram, two, and a tree shaker, let's dive into what's keeping you stuck. Because on the other side, is a light that's fired up the film. Welcome to 2020 to becoming ourselves the podcast. Actually, it's funny to me that I would say that because I am not one who gets overly excited about a quote unquote, new year because our purpose and who we are, is not tied to a man made calendar. It's tied to a God made purpose. And so the flip over of the date is kind of not a thing. Right? It's not a new, it's a continuation. It's a every day, I get to make my daily choice about how am I going to show up? And what am I going to do? What am I going to lean into. So what does feel new, is that I took a full two weeks off and didn't work. And it was so good for my soul. And it's one of those things that reaffirms for me how this career change in this shift. And everything God's led me through and into is so good for me how it's all for me, because I needed that time of rest. I needed that time of connection, I needed that time of just sitting and hanging out and painting part of the house and like there was stuff that was going on, right, but was a real break from work. And what we're going to talk about bit today, actually is that I stepped into 2022 with a very last minute plan. And in ways not a plan. So this is unusual, because typically, you know, when I think back on 10 years of real estate career, there was always a plan there were always financial goals and targets and how many houses am I going to sell? And what is my client attraction strategy going to look like? And I mean, a lot of the things that I often spend time with entrepreneurs on what is your client attraction look like? What is your business foundation look like? What are the fundamentals? What is your self care look like looking at life holistically, right, saying Where do you want to be in a year? And what I've been coming through is this season where I'm saying, Okay, what are we doing next? God, what's the next thing? Where are we going? Can I see the picture? And I've been getting just enough to take the next step. But I haven't been getting so much that I could plan. So it's not a I don't recommend planning. I think planning is great. It was a personally, I was getting it Nope. No, you're not planning. We're not doing this right now. So I sat down on the 30th of December. And I let my kids watch too much to be movie roll. And I sat on the couch with a notebook and played my instrumental background music because I think better with music. So I'm creative like that, and a musical. And I was like, Okay, where's the plan? What's the plan? Because this year, I knew that stepping into planning with a particular structure was not going to serve me. You'll hear this a lot that what got you to if we think about a business context, what got you to six figures isn't what's going to get you to seven, that you need to change your thinking that the limiting beliefs or the thought patterns that supported you pushing your way or hustling your way or growing your way to a certain level. Let's take numbers out of it for a minute is not what is going to have you grow to the next level. And where I love that is where we tie that into the faith perspective. We can say okay, that lines up with first Let me change the way you think. Right? In Romans are talks about that first, like God transform the way you think. And then you can learn the path that's ahead of you, then you can learn what his calling is for you what His purpose is for you what, and what are the next steps you're supposed to take. And so I'm sitting there, and I'm like, Alright, I can't do this through the structure, because the structure is actually going to limit my potential this year. So instead, I need to sit and I need to be available. And I need to dream and I need to step out of the structure and get to know just need to get to important language shift there. See, I'm catching myself as we go, we're just going to do the transparency episodes forever over here. And there was stuff that came up, like putting my soul into the book launch, because that is something I know that's happening this year, this spring, my first book will be published. And I'm excited for it. And it scares the crap out of me, because I've never published a book before we talk about FFTs as a Brene, brown thing F and first times it's a learning curve. There's a lot I don't know. So then the question becomes, who do I need to surround myself with to make sure that this is a success. And where I'm grateful there, as a side note, is that I have built this network or develop this new network, God has led me to these new people over the last year, that are in publishing that are authors that are best selling authors that I can lean into, and I can pick their brains. So the people we surround ourselves with, we're just going to tie back there for a hot second. Anyway, so that showed up and 22 clients showed up, which is very specific. So I kind of laughed at that. But like, okay, that's what I'm holding space for this year. Cool, like over the course of the entire year. That's it. All right. All right. I can reverse engineer that I can do that. And a whole bunch of like personal self care targets, family stuff, like it just kind of flowed out. And then I was able to sit down from that and say, All right, where do I need to bring my hubby in? Where do I need to bring Lindsay, my assistant in? Where do I need to create some new habits, create some new patterns, spend some time in different places, what needs to shift to support the things that he is telling me is coming? Are Coming grammar for the when you know, stages are coming? Who do I need to be? And how do I need to show up to support allowing in those opportunities to speak, to get in front of people to create impact to let him flow through me? If some kind of musical outlet is coming, then what do I need to be open to? Keeping my eyes out for in terms of opportunities so that I can say yes, when it comes? Because it will come? If a target is more connection at home? How do I need to show up? In that space? What do I need to let go of where do I need to create boundaries, so that I can become more of who I need to be and get to be and more of myself? Because this is all in alignment with who I am at my core? Right? Who do I need to be to be in integrity with me, and be able to show up at home creating more connection with people? And so here's where I'm curious, as you're looking at 2022? Maybe you've done the formal business plan, maybe you've done the kind of thing that I'll often do with clients where we sit down and we break down? Who's the ideal client? And where are they coming from? And where do you find them when what is your strategy look like? And what is your self care strategy look like? And what is your client journey look like? And what is your financials look like? And all this stuff, right? We can break it down into all these chunks in these buckets. But fundamentally, have you dreamed bigger than that? Have you let go of the systems and the structures long enough to say what could be possible? What if I just step outside of these boxes of potential limitation? Maybe they are maybe they're not but you can't know unless you dream a little first. If I step out of those boxes, what becomes possible for me this year and for those of you who are not Jesus followers, you can take this or leave this but for those of us who are this is like a mandate, okay. is for us to say what does he He told me to believe for what feels like a reach. What feels like a stretch what feels uncomfortable? What feels impossible, like straight up, there is no way that could happen. Okay, for me that's selling a million of these books. That feels straight up impossible. And yet, I know. And I believe that it is possible. Because he can do it. I'm going to have to show up, okay, I'm gonna have to put in some legwork. I know that because that's the message I'm getting. But I know he can do it. I know that well, it feels impossible for me to finally because this has been on my bucket list for like, literally 25 years, okay, for me to write and record an album that feels impossible, I have been getting in my way on that for legit my entire adult life and then some. And yet, I know that it is because he's placed that in me and said, This is something we are going to start to build towards this year. Not complete, necessarily, but that the pieces are going to start to be put in place. So it's our mandate to believe for things that he tells us to believe for, even if they seem impossible, even if they seem like too much of a reach, even if they seem like too much of a stretch. Because sometimes it's in those things that he shows himself. Sometimes it's in those things that other people see and start to question and get curious about what is going on there. I did not anticipate I was going to write a book last year, I did not anticipate that a book was going to take me like five weeks to get the first draft out on I did not anticipate that over a three month period, it would be sitting on the publishers desk. I'm in a big old waiting game right now, waiting on my first round of edits on this thing. We are three to five months out from me holding this thing in my hands that I never thought was possible. And we've talked about this before on the podcast, sometimes we don't feel ready. But he doesn't need us to feel ready. He doesn't need us to feel worthy, he doesn't need us to feel like we can for us to be able to do it. I still don't feel ready to write a book, and it's on the publishers desk. I still don't feel ready for so many things that are done. But they're done. And that's not just me pushing and hustling things through because I don't believe in push and hustle. There has been an ease, yes, there's been a stretching and a growing to that process. And there have been some weeks that have been really challenging, but there's an ease to it. And there's an ease as I'm stepping into 2022 and I'm looking at this list. And I'm like, Huh, okay, this is what we're working towards. Here are the priority areas. Here are the themes. I mean, ask for those ask for what are the themes for this year, you want to know what minor consistency, intentionality and authenticity, period we're leaving behind comparison this year. We're leaving behind tired this year, or leaving behind continuing to leave behind and release not enoughness. We're continuing to reclaim too much and as all of that still exists and consistency, intentionality, authenticity. So as you step into the first few weeks of this year, and there's this pressure, maybe it's internal, maybe it's society, to have a plan. Let's take a minute or an hour or a day or whatever's required and get quiet. Sit down with your notebook. Sit down with your music or whatever inspires you get out in nature if it's not minus 100 It's been so cold here. Why do I live where the air hurts so I face but sit down in the quiet and ask the questions. What's possible this year? And if you're a Jesus follower, what do you want for me this year? What are you leading me to that you can give me insight on what are the next steps But I need to take to get there. Who do I need to put in place? And what are my priorities? what systems do I need to build? What people do I need to bring in? Where do I need to grow? And from there, you can start to take the steps, what's the next step? Because we can get overwhelmed by the big picture. And often, that's why people will break up their planning into these little buckets and boxes. Because it can feel less overwhelming than this big picture was B hag this big, hairy, audacious goal. So we look at the B hag, and then we chunk it down. Okay, then we say what is the first priority and here's the thing with overwhelm, okay, the overwhelm, and the B hag, is that the overwhelm is rooted in fear. The overwhelm is your egos way of trying to keep you safe in the same. And we are not doing that this year. So give your ego a big ol hug and say, No, we are not doing this today. We are not doing overwhelm. Instead, I'm going to lean into my confidence, I'm going to lean into my strength, I'm going to lean into my power, I'm going to lean into being loved and I'm going to lean into my sound mind. Those are what have been given to us power, love and a sound mind. Spirit of that not a spirit of fear, not a spirit of timidity. That means not a spirit of playing small, and not a spirit of overwhelm. Full stop, we are saying no to overwhelm. And we are partnering with and asking for peace, focus, and ability to show up the way that he needs us to show up so that we can execute on the things that he's asked us to execute on. You know, what's fun about that? It's so exciting. There's so much joy in that there's so much just like, it's fun. It's fun and entrepreneurship can be fake and live in the professional corporate political dynamics life can be exhausting but it doesn't stop me creating here I hope this episode triggered something in you and got you thinking about your next growth curve. Make sure to check out the show notes for more details and links to resources or people that we've mentioned today. And make sure you hit follow or subscribe and if you have a hot minute will leave an awesome review. I would be so beyond grateful. Until next time, be too much. I dare you