Becoming Ourselves - The Podcast

I'm Not Ready, But It's Already Done

December 01, 2021 Season 2 Episode 13
Becoming Ourselves - The Podcast
I'm Not Ready, But It's Already Done
Show Notes Transcript

Often we're more ready for things than we think we are. We need to figure out how to step through the fear and overwhelm and do the hard things anyway. We can accomplish more than we ever thought!


Juli Wenger:

We are jumping into solo episodes today. And I'm so excited because we have had the most phenomenal group of guests. And we just celebrated the one year anniversary of becoming ourselves the podcast. And I was looking back at all of the people that have joined us on this virtual stage. And just floored, I was so floored by the variety of experiences and the diversity of the group in all capacities, like people from all walks of life, people from all kinds of backgrounds, people with all kinds of life experiences. And it has been such a cool journey. So as we're getting into year two, how has Wow, just wow, okay, can we just pause there? Wow, I'm so ingratitude right now. And as we step into year two of the podcast, I want to just spend a little bit of time being real and being transparent. And that's been how we've run this whole thing since the beginning. But I want to be real and transparent about where the journey is taking things now what what things look like, behind the scenes, what are things looking like, for me as I continue to grow and to show up. So today, we're going to talk a little bit about doing things, even when we're not ready. Because I, when I think back on launching the podcast, I was not ready. And at the same time, there was this step through the fear and just do it, do it anyway, hold your nose and jump, I was not ready to leave my business behind, hold your nose and jump, I was not ready to let go of the real estate piece of my coaching business, hold your nose and jump, I was not ready to shift into being bolder about my faith and the impact that's had on my journey. And hold your nose in jump. So here we are in a space of a year later. And I'm writing a book. Okay, so this is not a surprise to most of you. But if you didn't know, I've been working on a book for the last month and a half. And I wrote the first draft in about 30 days. And I've been working my way through the edits, as we've been going through November. So by the time this rolls out, the edits of the first draft will be done, it'll be off to beta readers. There's a whole process there's a huge learning curve. And with it came a whole load of imposter syndrome. And all of my stuff got up in my face. Because this is what happens. We've talked about this before. But if you're new to us, we're just going to regroup on this imposter syndrome is an invitation, an imposter syndrome shows up with every uplevel every time we go to change because our ego doesn't want us to change our ego wants us to stay the same because it's safer to do that. It can guarantee our survival more there it can predict the future with more certainty. And so when we go changing, it leverages overwhelm and perfectionism and imposter syndrome and all of these things to say, no, no, no, no, let's just stay where we are. So I stepped into this book writing journey. And like who do you think you are to write a book? Who do you think you are to take up shelf space? When there are people like Brene Brown and Mel Robbins and Austin Channing and all of these incredible people who are writing books and creating impact? Who do you think you are? Do you know enough? What if people judge you? What if it fails? What if What if What if What if Hello fear all of that showing up? And I felt so not ready. But I also knew that this was my next assignment. This was the next thing that God was being very clear with me about needed to happen. The next thing I was called to the next thing I had to complete and here's what I've been learning and all of these hold your nose and jump moments of feeling not ready, but doing it anyway. The faster I listen and the faster I get to a place of jumping, the easier the whole process is When I was going to leave my real estate business, I fought. I fought him hard was like, No, I think I think I need to figure out how to sell this business. I think I need to just sell a few more houses first, I think I need to ABCD XYZ. And every time I was like, Nope, we're going, Nope, we're going Nope, it's time we're going. Do you trust me at Let's go? Julie. Julie, do you trust me at Hey, Julie, do you trust me yet. And I was putting up roadblocks to my own path. I was trying to get on off ramps off the path that I'm called to off the path that I'm assigned to and off the path that I am built for. Because I didn't feel ready. And here's the thing, we don't have to feel ready. We just need to move. Your journey and you leaning into the life that you're called to. is not about you feeling ready. It's about you moving. It's about you understanding who you are and who's you are and what you're called to and saying, Okay, I'm going to keep stepping forward, I'm going to stay on the path, I'm going to be cognizant to not throw up roadblocks. Because there ain't no fighting with the Creator of the universe, okay, it gets real bumpy. I'm not doing that. I'm not going there. I'm not wasting time. And part of what's been supportive there because there are things that I have not been ready for that are done. Okay, I need you to hear that things that I am still not ready for. And they are done. I'm still not ready to not have a half a million dollar business. It's over. It's done. We've stepped through that phase. I'm still not ready to write the book. And the book draft is done. The publishing contract is signed, this is happening. There's no take C vaccines. I am still not ready for so many things. But they are done. Because he says there it's not like oh, Julio, just hang out here and wait until you're ready. No, it's there are people who I have assigned to you. And if you don't move, they won't get their transformation. They won't get me through you period. The cost is too high of waiting until we're ready. And this is for you. There are people listener? You Yes, you really yes you there are people that have been assigned to you, for you to create impact with for you to show up for for you to challenge or love or be compassionate with or support. And you have the capacity because you have been built for it to make an impact that goes beyond what you will ever even understand. If you're willing to show up and act even if you're not ready. The opportunity cost the cost of you not stepping into the opportunity is too high to wait for fear to subside and for your worthiness to feel stable enough. Because your ego will always bring up fear and it will always bring up worthiness and it knows how to stop you it knows how to make you feel uncomfortable. We have to act even if we're uncomfortable. And that acting gets a whole lot easier when we understand a couple of things. So this is where I'm going to bring you into a couple of book concepts because I want you to get as excited as I am about this. Number one, your enoughness is a choice. So we get to decide to choose enoughness. Continually. Number two, you're too muchness and you're not enoughness kind of the same thing, because too much of something is not enough of something else. So we're going to reclaim if you're going to go on this journey with me if you're going to tune into this podcast, this is where we're going. We're going to reclaim our two muchness we are going to intentionally be too much because how you have been built and what you are purposed for requires you to be powerfully and authentically all of you powerfully and authentically. All of you That's where your impact your capability and capacity for impact lies. And it is fundamentally required, because it has been designed that way that you show up as an authentic and whole version of you that you are unapologetic about who you are. Now, unapologetic does not mean that you need to be brash and obnoxious and things that I'm personally when I think about unapologetic, I think about people who are kind of a holes about things, okay? That's not what unapologetic actually means. unapologetic means if you are soft and quiet, that you own it, and you don't apologize for it. It means that if you are sometimes really bouncy and bubbly and love people and other times, you really just want to snuggle in on the couch and read a book with a cup of tea that you own that and that you don't apologize for it. It means that when you're showing up and you're creating content, or you're building a business, that you're doing it from a space of saying, I know who I am, and I know what I need. And I know what my skills are, and I know what my superpowers are, and I know what kind of impact I'm here to co create. And I'm going to go do that. And not let anyone else's expectations or shoulds pull me off course, I'm going to live my own story. I'm going to live according to my own definition of success, I'm going to check in with my Creator and see what it is that he wants me to do. Because that's where fulfillment is. Your purpose is not about you. And it's not about your readiness. And it's not about your fear. Your purpose is about people outside of you. And living that life following that call. That is what allows for living in a space of fired up fulfilled and free. That is where joy lives. That is where contentment lives. That is where abundance lives. And we've talked about abundance, haven't we? We're not just talking money. Because money is not actually Abundance. Money is a tool. Money is something that mean it's great, but it's not the thing that we actually crave. We crave joy, we crave connection. We crave knowing we're doing something with our life that matters. I've been there I've made the money. It did not make me happy and fulfilled. It just didn't. I thought it would but it sure didn't. Maybe you need to hear that because maybe you're chasing someone else's story, someone else's expectation around what success looks like. And you think when you get there, then you might feel whole then you might feel like you belong, then you might feel like you're enough. It's not how it works. From personal experience, it is not how it works. So here's the challenge for you is to really get clear, because this is the path that we follow in this. I can't wait to share it with you with this book is we handle and we knock out or not enoughness we reclaim our to muchness we step out of other people's stories. We understand who we are and what we are here for. And then we get on the journey. Then we move then we start marching. And we keep marching. one step after another checking in all the time. Okay, what's next? Okay, God, but you got for me today? Where are we going? What are we up to? What's next? Being in that space. This is the most fulfilled I think I've ever been in my life. Short of a short missionary stint as a teenager in some Amazon village off a feeder River in Peru, which was super cool. And I'll tell you that story sometime potentially. But it was like a type two helpers Dreamspace of like how needed I am and how helpful I am and I felt really full. But this space that I'm in now, knowing that I'm on the path I'm supposed to be on, knowing that I am showing up and saying okay, what's next and then I'm moving, even when I don't feel ready, and seeing how when we show up in that capacity, like God moves. He is working on so many things at once right now. It is mind boggling to me And he's just like, here's your priority today. Here's your priority this week go to the book. And by the way, here's the next one. I'm like, what? Not even done the first one yet? What are you doing giving me another one. And I go, Okay, now, I've learned not to fight with you, I'm going to write this down, I'm going to store it somewhere. I'm going to put pen to paper and make sure that I've captured this directive for when I finished this one that you're telling me as a priority right now. It's so cool. And it's so exciting. And it's so motivating. And it's so fulfilling. And I get to see transformation and change happen without carrying it on my own shoulders. Because we're conduits we're a flow through. And that is super fulfilling, too. So key points here today, move before you feel ready, step through the fear, and know who you are and what you're here for. And then life gets all kinds of fun and interesting. And resilience is like, Yep, got that. Bounce back gets faster. trust grows, trust in yourself. Trust in your maker, trust in your father. Right, so much better. And that's like good news, right? Like I struggled for so many years, about how do I talk about my faith? It's personal experience. It's those moments when I'm a kid, and I'm really questioning if he's real. I'm like, Hey, God, if you're if you're out there tapped me on the back. And I flipped over and I buried my face in my pillow. And I felt these like, push forceful taps on my back. And I flipped over and there was no one there. And it's been those kinds of moments that follow through life. Where it's always brought me back. And I've always known, I'm held, and then chosen and loved on some level, but the more that I allow that, the better it gets. So we're gonna wrap up there for today. Obviously, none of this was planned, because it's all over the place. But that's how we roll. And that's sometimes how life feels when we're moving and we don't feel ready yet. But I want you to go and look, just do some reflection on what have you stepped into that you haven't felt ready for? And it's done. And it's been amazing. And what things are you being asked right now to step into, that you don't feel ready for that you get to make a choice about are you going to do it anyway. Are you going to stay put where you are. And there's a whole lot of overwhelm spiral that happens when you know you're called to and capable of something else Hello, capability gap, and you're not acting on it. That's a swirl of confidence killing right there. So let's stay out of that space. And let's step forward together on this incredible journey that is life. All my love and Virtual hugs