The Becoming Ourselves Podcast

Becoming a Warrior with Glori Meldrum

March 24, 2021 Juli Wenger Season 1 Episode 26
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Becoming a Warrior with Glori Meldrum
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The Becoming Ourselves Podcast
Becoming a Warrior with Glori Meldrum
Mar 24, 2021 Season 1 Episode 26
Juli Wenger

Buckle up today, because I have a dear friend and powerhouse of a human on today! Glori Meldrum is a sexual assault survivor. She is an author of a newly published book "Warrior". She is also the founder of the Be Brave Ranch and Little Warriors, which works to prevent and treat sexual abuse of children. The work that they are doing is phenomenal. It is life-changing. She has won the L'Oreal Paris woman of month award she has won the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal. She has been top 40 Canadians under 40, 50 Most Outstanding Canadians and the list goes on. And I'm gonna stop talking now and let you listen to her story. So let's dive in.

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Show Notes Transcript

Buckle up today, because I have a dear friend and powerhouse of a human on today! Glori Meldrum is a sexual assault survivor. She is an author of a newly published book "Warrior". She is also the founder of the Be Brave Ranch and Little Warriors, which works to prevent and treat sexual abuse of children. The work that they are doing is phenomenal. It is life-changing. She has won the L'Oreal Paris woman of month award she has won the Queen Elizabeth Diamond Jubilee Medal. She has been top 40 Canadians under 40, 50 Most Outstanding Canadians and the list goes on. And I'm gonna stop talking now and let you listen to her story. So let's dive in.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

Little Warriors Website: https://littlewarriors.ca/

Book an Alignment Call with Juli: https://app.acuityscheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19410531&appointmentType=13872740

Glori's Website https://glorimeldrum.com/

Becoming Ourselves The Summit https://www.juliwenger.com/becomingourselvesthesummit

CONNECT WITH ME

Instagram: @juliwenger

Facebook: - ww.facebook.com/becomingourselvespodcast

LinkedIn: Juli Wenger 

Website: https://www.juliwenger.com/

Juli Wenger:

Welcome to the becoming ourselves podcast where we believe that you were created on purpose with purpose and for a purpose. I'm Julie winger and empowerment and identity coach and enneagram two committed to helping you step out of overwhelm perfectionism and self sabotage. listen in to learn how to take back your power, uncover the stories and patterns that keep you small, and lean in to living your most powerful, purposeful and passionate life. Let's dive in. Okay, buckle up today, because we have a dear friend and powerhouse will be human on the podcast and I have been so excited to bring her on for quite some time now. We're welcoming Gloria Meldrum to the podcast and glory is a sexual assault survivor. She as an author of a newly published book warrior, which I highly recommend you all read, we're going to talk about that a little bit today. She is also the founder of the Be brave ranch and little warriors, little warriors is an organization that is so close to my heart, and that I've had the opportunity to support over the years that does prevention and treatment work for child survivors of sexual abuse. The work that they are doing is phenomenal. It is life changing. It is research backed in a partnership with the University of Alberta. And they are making such massive differences in the lives of children. This is a big issue. And if you haven't been paying attention, or if you've been living under a rock, or if you've been avoiding this area, because it's hard to talk about, it's hard to think about, it's hard to fathom and yet, something like one in five girls and one in three boys experience some form of unwanted sexual assault or experience. Take a deep breath with me. And we're going to lean into this one because we need to do something. This is an issue that matters in our time, if it needs to stop, and not until we all work together on this and get really damn loud, are we going to be able to do something about it. So just a couple more notes about glory before we hop in for today, she has won the L'Oreal Paris woman of worth award, she has won the Queen Elizabeth to Diamond Jubilee Medal, she has been top 40 Canadians under 4050 most outstanding Canadians, and the list goes on. And I'm gonna stop talking now and let you listen to her story. So let's dive in. So I first met glory A number of years ago when I was still very active in my real estate company. And I remember going to my first little warriors luncheon and learning about the work that you are doing and that your team is doing. And the team is incredible. By the way, for those of you who are new to learning about little warriors, you're going to get a bit of an education today. They have made such strides in treatment and prevention of child sexual abuse. And all of this stemmed from a space of glory having been well glory being a survivor herself. And not just survivor. But the word that we're adopting now and the title of her new book is warrior. So Cory, can you give us a short synopsis of background, we'll definitely link to the book. So if people want to go into the weeds on some of the history and what has led you to this point of becoming in your own journey, they can do that. But let's give a quick synopsis of what's glory story was brought her here.

Glori Meldrum:

So I was raised in the Maritimes a little tiny little place called a mare mushy. And I lived with my grandparents from the time I was eight to 10. And because my mom just that my parents were divorced, she didn't have much money. And so my sister and I lived there with a bunch of boarders and my grandparents and and no one really knew that he was a sex offender. So basically, I was, you know, sexually violated for the two years that I live there. And when we finally left Oh, I should mention too. He was a crosswalk guard at my elementary school, which they always as you know, if you've taken a number of our programs is that that's they're always where the kids are, right? They're always where the kids are. And so when we finally moved out after two years of being hunted in an 1100 square foot house, my mom when they told me what had happened to her that she was raped as a little girl and I said, that happened to me too. And so then all of a sudden it was out. And my mother took me to the authorities children's services. cops. And basically everybody said your daughter's a liar. He's such a nice guy. Did you know he's a crosswalk guard? You know, he would he said he never touched your daughter, which we all know that you're you can't do that. You can't say who the person was like any of that stuff. So it was really messed up. And so I got out 30s didn't believe me. And my mom called a meeting with my family ran her kitchen table, because the one thing I said to my mom is that I really want to protect my little nieces and nephews. Because if he's doing it to me, he's probably doing it from to them, right. So even as a young girl, I realized, and I knew other kids that he had been abusing, we got everybody together and like no word of a lie. I'll never forget it sitting kitchen table at my house, and they're like, what were you wearing? You must have had a very short 90 on, right, like, what did you do to provoke him? Like everything from you know, what were you wearing? It must have been you, you provoked them, you're a slot like just awful. And you have to realize these are the people that I was always taught that families, family and nothing out does family. And in that moment, not only had I been violated, I had lost anybody that loved me with the exception of my dad, because I never told my dad. So my parents were divorced. I never told my dad because I was like, that didn't go so well. Like I'm not telling him right. And so my dad never knew till I was 18, my family decided that they didn't want my grandmother to find out. And so I still went to weddings. I danced with him. I sat beside him at church, I sat on his knee when I went to his house, he came to our house for supper, I went to his house for supper. And everybody just pretended and wanted to bury that we had a sex offender in our house. Because I think at the end of the day, they didn't want to be they didn't want that reputation or shame or to hurt their pride that you know that my step grandfather, who was the only grandfather ever knew my real grandfather died. before I was born. I was a child molester. And so, after that, I was just dropped, I was out. So I've always really struggled with like abandonment issues. And I'm not like lovable because they dropped me like nothing, right? And as a kid, it's all I ever had, right? Like was my family.

Juli Wenger:

Well, I remember I was reading the book, working my way through this book. And I'm gonna be honest, it was challenging for me to keep myself engaged at times, because there's a self protection that shows up, right? Like, oh, this is you know, this is hard, because the story is hard. And we're I want to just give us a second to breathe into this is for our listeners allow it to be hard. Because we haven't lived to this, or some of the listeners probably have, because the stats are ridiculously high on the numbers of people that experienced this kind of thing. But if you're in the boat, that I am grateful and blessed to be in myself, of not being a survivor of sexual violence, feel into how hard it is to have the conversation and how hard it is to think about because this is people like Lori's lived reality. It is something that defined the entire course of your life, as we learn about as we work our way through this book. And I remember reading, you were talking about how the being told that you were a liar at the being shunned from the family being not believed was almost more traumatic than the events themselves. Can you speak to that a little bit?

Glori Meldrum:

You know, it's interesting, and obviously I was that's one of the reasons in the book, too. I wasn't like, I didn't tell about all the sexual violence because then nobody would read on right. So I think people can understand that it was a lot worse than that. I never liked him. I didn't love him. He was kind of like a cranky old man. I didn't love him. I did however, absolutely love my aunts and uncles. Right. And my mom and you know, all of those people. And so it's different when you don't love someone and they harm you in a very vicious way. But all I had my parents were divorced since I was two was this family unit that now i was completely out of out like like roughly 11 years old and you know the abuse i mean still piece of it pieces of it still haunt me but my family even today i have absolutely nothing to do with them is that it took me years to say this isn't mine i wasn't the one that you know called a little girl a liar and a sloughed and you know what were you wearing and made her go like i didn't do that so it's taken me a lifetime to be to know where the shame should be placed and it's not on me right i did nothing wrong it's interesting and people will say like i get often asked like you know your family must be so proud you're an entrepreneur and little warriors and and now the book is such a big success and bla bla bla bla bla and my answer to them is i go none of them are no i am like the black sheep of the family and the book just actually made things worse to be bear and i knew it would you know i had one relative that i still had a relationship with and i said you know promise me promised me that because we she finally came and said you know please forgive me for what happened when you're a kid and i'm like absolutely and i just i she was the one i always loved the most and i said please when the book comes out i've been gracious and loving and kind i haven't been it's not written from fear or hate please please i beg of you do not abandon me again and shame on me because the exact same thing happened as soon as that book was out i never heard from her again right so yeah it's uh you know none of them are are happy to help publicly and how loud of a voice that i've had but at this time honestly like i don't care anymore is i'm proud of me i'm proud of the book i'm proud of little warriors i'm proud that i found my voice i'm proud that i'm standing up for other kids and have a bunch of random people that are just happened to be blood related to me don't appreciate me or what i do i'm indifferent when i say i don't care i'm not being mean it's not important to me you know i think about you and all that you've done for little warriors and never not even being a survivor like none of my family is done that much like and you didn't even know me so why are you kinder to me so aren't you more my family than them, you've loved me more.

Juli Wenger:

I'd be honored to be here if your familu

Glori Meldrum:

You've loved me more dear, and so i think that that's a thing and survivors struggle with it is like there's got to be boundaries and for me probably been the last five months that i like i literally blocked everybody from facebook blocked everybody's phone numbers and just said this is for my own mental health and i'm taking back yeah that voice that piece right now so the family side was worse than worse than the abuse it still is today because you wonder like i always say to my husband if i'm you know if i'm in a rough spot or because i've always had mental health stuff and i'm like you know i'm just not lovable my mother my own parents didn't even really love me or my family didn't love me like that's it that's a really big piece i just wasn't good enough i just wasn't good enough they didn't even like me so why would anybody else?

Juli Wenger:

Well you spoke to that in the book to write around the self hatred piece of like that awareness when you were talking about the hoffman project really that's when it was in the book and just having this moment of self awareness and saying i hate myself and how much of that was this internalization of other people's stories and other people's wounding and other people's shit from going through all of this journey

Glori Meldrum:

it's all of it because at the end i never did anything wrong i was eight years old like what could what could i have been possibly wearing i mean really and it was interesting because well i talk a little bit in the book that i almost slipped my wrist with my dad's razors like i've been suicidal many times you know over my life because i wasn't i didn't use drugs i didn't drink i was like an internalized of you're not worth it you're not lovable you're not likable if somebody is mad at you it's your fault so i took all their stories and abused my own self how crazy is that that i'm not lovable by people that shouldn't even really matter right and it really is only since my battle with cancer that three years ago that i really realized that all of this stuff it's not mine it isn't mine and that's bad Really freeing, I don't treat my kids like that my kids love me. Right? I'm not great mom, I broke the cycle of abuse in my family. And so I don't need them anymore, if that makes sense is that I think there was a part of me for many years that was like, I'm gonna be successful, I'm gonna do good. And you're and you'll love me. Like, is pathetic is that sounds as an almost 48 year old woman, I'm going to make you so proud. I mean, I've been an entrepreneur since I was 23. And nothing would have ever made them like it, it maybe is to the depths that they can, but it isn't what I consider love. Right. And that was really, really hard to know that, you know, there's just a point that things are never going to change, right. And, and that's why I think I finally just made that big separation, so that people stopped attacking me on Facebook about what a bad human I was, because I wrote this book, and that, you know, I'm like, I'm just done. And there really is a freedom in that piece of being done. And really realizing who my tribe is, who my family is, and it's not defined by blood, right? It's not.

Juli Wenger:

Let's talk a little bit about a couple moments that really struck me in reading the book. And there are things that I've seen in you in the time that we have spent together to have this shift from proving to surrender. And you talked about the, the cracks, like these God, openings of clarity and things flowing and really leaning into surrender. Tell us a bit about that.

Glori Meldrum:

Oh, that's my so funny. That's my tattoo. Right? Is and it's upside down, as my tattoo artist said, but I got it after I was done. My battle with cervical cancer is, I think that for a lot of us, we run and run and run and run. You know, our days are booked solid. It's crazy. And I think that a lot of that was my addiction, that if I ran and ran and ran, and fed, my kids then passed out, went to bed, and then I did it all over again, like working and being a success and all of those things. It is it, it was more of an addiction than still a little bit. But there was cracks because if I was silent, I couldn't handle the space. very candid, I was like, Okay, this is like the most uncomfortable like, space for me. And the example that I'm going to give you is the it's deeper than where I was when I finished warrior. It's in my second book called Im surrender, which is the title is I remember going to get my Pap test and get a they kept saying to me, like, glory, call the doctor and I call and they say no, you weren't supposed to call. And finally, I was like, okay, like john leaving it alone. He got a letter in the mail. And it said, I had abnormal cells. And I went and got it's called a cappella Skippy. And literally, I didn't think anything was wrong with me, right? Because I had no symptoms. And I'll never forget, the lady said to me, You have a huge tumor in your cervix. I never my husband ever came with me. It was all by myself. And I remember at that moment, knowing that there was no strong foundation. And what I mean by that is that when I was a little girl I would I grew up in Belkin. And so they take who wants to receive the Holy Spirit, and I go up, and I'd like the eight years old and put my little arms up and, and I remember, I finally stopped praying. And doing that like, asking God to make my grandfather stop, and said, just send somebody that loves me and I married him. And we've been together 27 years and you've met him and he's amazing. And so God's always been a thread in my life, even when it was so horrific. I never abandoned him. I just, I mean, imagine pray for him to stop raping me, but can Okay, I'll stop praying for that. But can you just send me someone that loves me? And it sounds so sad, right? But that's kind of how I felt and and so always been a thread. And when I got sick, that really is really even more than the book when surrender came into play. Because all of a sudden, I'm you know, they think I'm stage one I get a radical hysterectomy. I'm stage three. They don't know if I'm going to live or die I radical hysterectomy, chemo, radiation, all of it in like a very short period. And I had a nervous breakdown for probably 14 months, I spent 35 days in a trauma center in the US I was under psychiatric evaluation by a psychologist because people don't realize that I kind of like got re raped again. So more than likely I got HPV from him, which grew into cervical cancer. so that's why i like completely lost my mind and so getting this render part i didn't work for 14 months i never told anybody that i cancer for 12 except close friends you were even at the luncheon that i wore the yellow dress and i was nine days at a radiation and chemo and everybody's like you're really thin i'm like yeah i just lost weight and so what i would do most of the day between like and i was very drugged sedatives sleeping pills anxiety i was on so much stuff just to be okay i wasn't allowed to be left alone but i would take baths like scalding baths for hours i'd run the tub i drain it i run it for hours and i'll never forget the day that i learned surrender and surrender isn't something that you've got it and you keep it you got to work on it every day because i'm like oh shit i didn't surrender that oh shit i didn't surrender that but my first real experience of letting fully go was looking at a bottle of clonazepam which is a sedative that if you took a bottle you'd be more you'd be dead is dead can be and i was on a lot of that so i remember being in the tub and just saying god you know what like it's all too much yeah i was 80% of the mountain now i've fallen all the way down the mountain i don't even have the strength to get back up the mountain i can't even look at the mountain i've been climbing the mountain my whole life and now honestly i'm starting over at the bottom at the bottom right i remember knowing there was two options the bottle of clonazepam or my other option was to say god hear it out here it's yours my life my business my kids cancer coming back little warriors i do not want to carry it anymore and i never was mind to begin with right i wouldn't have i wouldn't have started the warriors without a whisper from god i wouldn't have done it like nobody's that crazy i mean it's none of it's been easy right and so

Juli Wenger:

right our god callings are not things that were like oh yeah that sounds easy let's go do that thing they're like they make big hairy audacious goals look like not a thing

Glori Meldrum:

yeah they're the ones like you're like i guess i don't have a choice it's it's why people i mean i would have ran from little warriors a million times i mean i've had death threats you name it but i never have because it's it's god's purpose for me and i don't have it i don't really have a choice if that makes sense and so in that tub i wept and i wept and i wept and i wept and i wept and i said god i give it i give you everything whether the cancer comes back cuz i was at 50% risk of it coming back between 50 to 60 and a reoccurrence which i would be uncurable and i just said you know what i want to live what if i got to if i got a year a week a month whatever it is i want to live i give it all to you and that really was my first moment of complete surrender and letting go and it was either that or death it was one of them and that's why like i'm not a tattoo girl at all but i've got warrior on one side of my wrist and surrender on the other one and some days i'll you know it'll be a bad situation i'm like glory let it go you don't know if that's your learning let it go surrender it and so i i look at my arm all the time the surrender one all the time is let it go let it go like i go to the cross in two weeks for my three year checkup i'm like glory starting to get anxious let it go there's nothing you can do it's all in god's hands and so and to me god is love and love is god i'm not like an overly religious person like it's kind of funny most of my family is so it's kind of ironic that this is kind of how they are to me but you know it's simple it's so simple that god is love and love is god right like that that really is how i look at it but my lesson with surrender was life or death and every day i'm still surrendering i'll take something and i'll own it i mean that's what we do as entrepreneurs no no no i got it i got it and even the pandemic i'm like we'll see what how we're gonna do we'll see how the warriors is gonna do it's not up to me i guess to i realize like if i think i controlled and did all this stuff it's not even possible now that like none of it is earthly you've been out there it's it's godly groundit is like it's an incredible. you step in that land and you're like It's just it's, it's holy, right? And all of this has been. But the big difference is me not carrying the weight worrying about the money is I'm like, God, I mean, my board often laughs are like God just gonna look after it right glory. I'm like, yep, God's just gonna look after it. And because he's bigger than me, he's bigger than you. He's bigger than all of us. And I know that. And if you even look at little warriors, I mean, some random little broken little child from Marin machine, New Brunswick. How does she build the Betty for the Mayo Clinic? for child sexual abuse treatment? That is world renowned, academic based? She doesn't. What she does, is she listens to God's whisper. Right. And then God lined everything up. But I still thought for many years that I was pulled that I was still doing it. I was still doing all the pieces. But all along he was and so now I know what God's got it. God's got it. God's got it. And that's the difference. I think surrender is God's got it. Right. God's got this.

Juli Wenger:

Yeah. And it's so freeing. Can I think you're right, if it gets a practice, it's an every day choosing a continual re choosing. And I'll often lean into that space of, if he's for me, then literally everything is for me not has to be, he's created all of it. There is no other option than whatever I'm facing right now. Whatever, I'm going through whatever challenge I seem to be living right now, whatever hit to my ego I'm taking it's for me, because that's what he'll allow. Not that it's all gonna be fun, or it's all going to be easier. It's all going to be pleasant, or it's all gonna be no without its trauma. And your stories always been such a lesson in extremes. Right? They're big lessons,

Glori Meldrum:

we hope we are back half my life sweetheart is like, you know, what pair of shoes do I need?

Juli Wenger:

Can we just be done with all of the big pendulum swings? Now, that'd be great. But it's I mean, it's interesting, right? Because there are, for some of us, you know, watching, there are these moments of impact that exist and a story that is as extreme in its pendulum swings as yours is. And I believe that he uses that and creates impact through that. And it's the impact that exists on the other side that pulls us through, it's the impact that keeps us in cage. It's those kids that deserve better, that didn't have a space, like what you and your team have created and what we've been honored to support in some small capacity over the years. Tell us about the ranch.

Glori Meldrum:

Oh, I miss it. I'll tell you that much. This whole COVID thing is not my favorite thing. But I think that us as humans have a lot to learn during this time period. The ranch is it's funny, I remember one night and I'll then I'll kind of tell you what the ranch is when I got I need that I knew I had cancer, and I didn't know I was going to live and I was in the tub. And I said to my husband, I married the love of my life. I love my business. You know, I love my friends and my tribe. And you know, I Love Little warriors. And so you know, I'm proud I broke cuz you start to like your calling, making sure you got life insurance. And like those are real feelings of like, and I said the one thing that I really haven't done is live. He kind of looked at me and I said, I've just done I had to be that way to do to follow through on the whispers. Little warriors, for me, is the space. Like in the tub. I said to my husband after like the living pieces that I said, If I die, I want I want you to sprinkle me there. All my ashes. Like that's my holy space more than a church more than anything. And I said, I don't want a headstone. I want a little bronze little sculpture that says Be brave, and I want you to hide it on the property of 130 acres. My Pictures not anywhere in that building. I said that's all I want. That's all I want. And so people often say like, was it worth it? Was it worth being raised was worth the cancer and it isn't in the darkness you're learning but you can't see the gifts. If that makes sense. Like when it's all dark and you want to be dead and you're in the middle of chemotherapy like me. I didn't see things. It wasn't until I got out that I understood that cancer taught me grace that the way that Leading, you know, the community in the little warriors journey taught me how to be an authentic leader, right. And so little warriors has given me lots of lessons. And I always say to people, you know what I would take being raped again, to do what I've done. Because I'm one person, what I sacrificed that me for them. And that's honestly how I feel is like, when I'm so proud now of you know, Alberta, and what we've all done together, like, when everybody told us we couldn't do it, we build the first, the best, like a world class facility, like an imaging, like it's crazy. And so we treat kids that have been sexually abused from across Canada, both 50 5050 from Alberta 50 from the rest of Canada, 35% of all those kids are indigenous. So it's a treatment center. It's a one year program, the solid family program. Right now, we've got bridge programs for families, teenagers and kids, because if they can't get to us from somewhere else in Canada, they can take the online program and our clinicians are in the back, we're about, we're about 50 staff just outside of Sherwood Park, we are on 130 beautiful acres, we're about 60,000 square foot of space that we utilize. So like even my good friend Theo flurry came out, he's like, I thought you bought a house, like I didn't think you bought like, all these buildings, right. And so and as I said before, it's sacred land. And the more kids that come through, I bet you even next time you're out, you're gonna be like glory, like it shifted, it shifted every time I'm out there to be to be very candid. And we also teach prevention programs that you can take online. You know, we've got a full clinical team out there that works with the kids. And I think we offer to nine different modalities of therapy. It's just an incredible program that is now published in medical journals around the world. And we all did that with God's help. Like, I think we often underestimate our own personal power, because we think we couldn't do that we couldn't leave a good real estate job and, and you know, be a personal coach and do a play. But we can do anything we want.

Juli Wenger:

We just have to get out of the way and let it happen.

Glori Meldrum:

We just got to get out of the way and follow that voice because that voice in that whisper is never, never wrong. And, and so that's a little bit about little warriors, My dream is that I'm going to have an adult program, so that I'll be able to actually take so that'll be the next thing we'll raise money for. But I mean, right now we have enough money because the government still doesn't give us $1 even though we're world class, if you can believe that. to them. It has nothing to do with outcomes or results. It's quite interesting.

Juli Wenger:

Yeah, it's quite maddening, to be honest. But we could go down that tirade. And

Glori Meldrum:

yeah, there's, I'm sure there's some videos, you could find me online having tirades about the government, and how how little they they give a shit about this, but I to be very candid, stay away from them. I just like my team does it, we've got a great board. And I'm just like, Listen, I think I've earned the right not to be in those meetings. Like, I'd rather be with the kids drawing or doing something. So it's one of the rules with my board that I'm like, that's not my space. Because when I'm in that space, I don't feel good. I'd rather be in a good space, right in a healing space. And so I don't have much to do with them. You know, the board and staff handle most of that been challenging, because, you know, we have 15 to 20 kids, we have 60 beds, but we don't have enough money we've got now I bet you were close to a three year waitlist day. Unless you're in Alberta, you get in quicker because you, we can take you and we can't take other kids from across the country because of COVID. And so that's sad, right? Like, I was doing an interview earlier today. And I was said imagine for everybody that complained about kids getting, you know, human traffic, child pornography, like we treat those kids too. And like kids that have been molested in their homes or by whomever. Imagine every time somebody was mad on Facebook or social media and they donated $1 to us, we'd have no funding problems. None. So you know, one of the things and I'm I think I'm losing I'm not I don't think I ever had a filter, really. But I always say to people like what what's your contribution? Like, what have you done? And people say, Well, I don't have any money. And I'm like, do you have hands and they're like, yeah, I said, Come work at the ranch and help clean some stuff from the woods. Do you have $30 like everybody can do something. And you know, so I always try to challenge people to say Listen, don't complain. The only way you get to complain if you've done something if you've taken action and you know being all mad because some sex sexual predators out on the street, but you've never written the MP. You've never written them in at the root. In the Minister of Justice, or you've never done any of these things, you don't get a right to be mad. Like, have you ever done anything? Like Sorry?

Juli Wenger:

Well, and when we look at the Fallout, and this has always been such an important piece of the conversation for me, when we look at the impact of not providing treatment of not providing help of not filling the beds, on the longer term, you know, mental health of people, suicides, drug addictions, future abuse cycles, poverty, in general, so much of this is directly linked back to not having treatment for these kids.

Glori Meldrum:

But here's the thing, though. And when politician said to me, You can't fix that in a term. So basically, I've been elected, it's four years, I can't fix that. It blows my mind to that not one politician stood up for us, like really stood up for us. And it's not like we don't have the reputation. It's not like, we don't have evidence. It's not like we don't work with the ubay. Like, it's amazing how no one said, like, wow, like, you were gonna help these people. You know, they know how to do this. They're healing kids. It's so important, right? And maybe someday, hopefully, we'll see that if not, then I'll just keep plugging away trying to raise money as as I always have been, but I don't, I don't worry about the ranch anymore. And that's really freeing is that I know the money will come, it may not come at the time I want it. It may not come when I got empty, but like, but whenever God decides it'll show up, it will. Because it always has. And, and, and that's the thing is I know that divine power will always they're his kids. And I mean, always say that they're, you know, my kids, I mean, I already have four, but they're his children. Right? They're his children, you know, but being.

Juli Wenger:

So let's give people an opportunity to do something. Because we got a few minutes left, and I want to give all of our listeners some handles. This is a cause that has been so close to my heart for a number of years. And it's important to me that we have conversations about things that might make us uncomfortable. Because like we said before, this is the lived reality for 1000s of kids. And this is live reality that has never been treated for 1000s of adults like this is beyond what you might imagine that it is. So if you're listening to this right now, and you want to do something, there are a number of opportunities. And I'm going to let Gloria tell you about what some of them are.

Glori Meldrum:

So if you go to little warriors.ca. So our website, there's a resource list of every single thing we need at the ranch, from dishwashers, to furnaces, to toys, you name it, we'll list if you're a plumber, if you're an electrician, we can use you, right because it's a big facility and things break and 85% of every dollar we raise goes to the programming and the treatment of the kids. That's how being we are. The other thing is, we have a luncheon coming up on May six, that for the first time one of the one of the original children that has gone through the ranch is going to be the keynote speaker at our luncheon, and I am beyond excited. And so that's may 6, and it's going to be virtual, and anybody from around the world that wants to help doesn't matter what country you're in, right? You can watch from Russia, if you want or mer mushy or New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, you can be part of the luncheon and you never could before right. And so I think that's another way that you can help. You know, doing third party fundraisers like and people are like, well, it's COVID I just had a guy run a marathon in the cool before the weather got nice. He raised 50 $500 right, we've got a Brewing Company that's raising money, like people are finding unique ways to raise funds for us. And we're always I mean, the most beds we've ever filled is 20 at a 16 month. Yeah, like that's how much room we have for for money. Right? And that doesn't include that we know that if we built an adult program that we could heal them and turn their lives around. Right. And so, you know, money is always important volunteering, right? Like, whether you've got video capacity or you're a photographer like everybody's got a gift, we could probably use it right. And you know, those are some of the ways any if you ever hear me speak or you're looking for a speaker, everything I do all the money goes back to the warrior so even my book now warrior by glory Meldrum, which is on Amazon, but we prefer That you get it at glory, Meldrum calm because all the money goes to little warriors and Amazon takes a lot. Audio Book is almost up. And so that's another way you can support us is that every time I speak all the money goes to little warriors books like any of that stuff I'm not a I don't get paid, it's all volunteer. So even if it's, you know, one of my friends bought a book for all her friends for Christmas, like how kind, right? And you know another one of my friends bought 100 books to be given to vulnerable, how beautiful so I've been to masked and COVID friendly, then we've been gone to the shelters, drop them off, we've dropped them off in addiction centers, I've done zooms with the women in the addiction centers and they've had my book and you know, so there's we're always saying like, if you've already got a book, there's so many people that are asking for them. And that really it we want everybody to have one even if they can't afford it. Right. So, you know, that's been really beautiful. So there's in the other thing story is not that I know if it does any good, but I'll say it is like, right and not a form letter. Like if you want change, right? Like look at the cool stuff going on right now. Albertans got really mad. They made tackles, they got upset. And what did Jason Kenney do? He backed off it. Right. But why have we not ever done? That's amazing. Okay, but why have we never done that? When kid people are raping our children? Why do we care? I mean, and I pleat like, I love environment. I love what they're doing. But why is nobody stood up on the child side like that, for kids that are getting raped, human trafficked, there's kids in Edmonton being human trafficked at six years old. And just so you know, they get a premium. They're paid the pimps paid a premium, the trafficker because their child, child pornography images, like, why are people rioting? In the streets? Like, honestly, some days like everybody's not like you'd hear, right? Like they're not is that you know, I would say, of 90 people out of 100 people that say they're going to help 10% do, you can make a difference whether it's buying a ticket or buying a book or becoming part of our tribe, which you pay into every month. There's so many ways to help because I'm not okay with people raping, and molesting human trafficking, child pornography, or little children. I'm not okay with it, and neither should anybody else.

Juli Wenger:

And here's what I want to add to that is, I remember we had Jesse Lipscomb on the podcast a little while ago, we're talking about Black Lives Matter. And he made this comment of change moves at the speed of empathy. And that's really the same thing that I see showing up here is we have to opt in, we have to opt into the conversation, we have to opt into getting educated, we have to opt in to being frickin uncomfortable. And saying, you know what, I'm going to do something, I'm going to say something, I'm going to have these conversations, I'm going to reach out, I'm going to demand change, because things won't happen until we demand change and systemically. And this is where I want to again, encourage people to go read the book, when we start to see how systemically the court systems, and we don't quite have time to jump into that today. But how they don't serve and they don't protect victims. We got a problem and something that we can change.

Glori Meldrum:

There's no justice in our justice system. When people are getting if they even get convicted two years community service or six months for raping a child, you tell me right like how Yeah, more people don't care is the one thing that boggles my mind. But we need to make the choice that we're going to participate that we're going to learn right that we're going to help and that's only something and that's the other thing I surrender to is that I was always like, why won't more people help and then I was like, You know what, God the end of the day I'm just gonna go and do my preaching and do my thing and if they come they come right to help and if they don't they don't write is you know we need to rise raise an army to stop this and it won't be the government that does it. What is the government ever changed? Give me one thing

Juli Wenger:

it'll be regular people like us demanding change

Glori Meldrum:

regular people like us that make all the change right and that's why I was telling you today is like with my new podcast, hopefully it's going to be up in May. It's everything is it's been so busy for me but you know warriors of glory Meldrum is that I am going to interview people, they're changing the world. The world not just a country in all these different areas, and they're the change makers. And I can tell you if one of them is government, I'll buy you dinner anywhere you like. That is on my podcast. You No, it's people that are regular people with kids and jobs. We are the ones with the power, not the government. We've got it wrong, you know that we've got it wrong. We've got it wrong. So I always say to people, you can write a letter to the government, and they'll send you a form one back, if we would need a million letters. Right. But you know, when I ask people

Juli Wenger:

let's be one of he million

Glori Meldrum:

when I asked, they get 10. And like, it's like, really, you can't, you can't just write a letter, like, do you know what's going on? Do you know the stories, like seeing these kids is? When they first get there? I would do anything. Right? I would do anything for them. And we and we all should right now. But I do you know, I love you. And I'm so grateful to spend some time with you and just want to thank you for being one of the people that has stepped up and taken action. And there's nothing you've said no to you have been such an angel. So thank you so much.

Juli Wenger:

That's been my honor. And I'm so thankful we can have you on the podcast, we could literally talk for hours. So maybe what we'll do is we'll have you back after I am. Surrender comes out. And we can talk more about that would love to. And for all of you listening, we're going to drop a whole bunch of links in the show notes. For this one, make sure you sign up for the little warriors luncheon. Go check out the work that they're doing, see how you can help get educated and opt in. Thank you, glory. Thank you. Thank you for sticking it out in this conversation with us today. Because it is so important. It's so important that we act is so important that we are informed and it is so important that we protect our kids. For more information on the work that's being done at little warriors. There is a link in the show notes. There's also information on the little warriors website about Glory's book warrior as well as their luncheon that's coming up. If you want to participate if you are ready to get involved if you're ready to make a difference, we'll make sure that you have access to the resources to do so. In the links below. I also want to remind you about the becoming ourselves summit, which is coming up on June 18. Early Bird tickets went on sale last week at $49 Canadian until I believe the end of April. So make sure to snag your tickets. And stay tuned for exciting speaker announcements and everything coming up. This day is like spoken word poets meet CEOs, meets authors meets coaches meets podcasters meets musicians it's gonna be like concert plus dance party was a day of inspiration. So you're going to want to make sure that you're there. Until next time, this is your loving reminder that you are loved joy, strength, light and grace. You are always enough and you have the power to make a difference. All my love and virtual hugs